A
One-Step Program to Wellness
by
H. Wallace Goddard
Just
as there are different levels of eternal rewards, perhaps there
are different levels of truth and different levels of well-being.
To go from heathenism to reluctant respect for law is a step forward.
However, for someone who had already embraced whole-hearted loving
and serving to move to grudging respect for law would be a serious
step backward. Civility may be better than barbarism but it is
not better than charity or true discipleship. Or, said in terms
of eternal destinations, terrestrial is better than telestial
but still far beneath celestial.
Maybe
this is akin to psychological growth. It is better to be self-sufficient
than dependent---but it is best of all to be God-reliant. It is
better to be in recovery than addicted---but it is best to be
filled with sacred covenant. In fact, some people who give up
addictions to substances seem to become addicted to recovery.
The whole world is seen through the lens of addiction and recovery.
In contrast, when people are most healthy, they become absorbed
in love and service. They are taken over by Christ. Beyond recovery
is discipleship.
Limits
of the Addiction Approach
Wendy
Kaminer has written a tart critique of the recovery and self-help
movements. She writes that “intense preoccupation with addiction
and abuse reflects an ominous sense of powerlessness . . . It
offers absolution and no accountability and creates entitlements
to sympathy, support, and reparations. . . . Recovery gives people
permission always to put themselves first, partly because it doesn’t
give them a sense of perspective on their complaints . . ..No
one seems to count her blessings in recovery” (pp. 152, 153, 27).
The
addiction approach to alcoholism and other “addictive” behaviors
is challenged scientifically by a wealth of research. Baumeister,
Heatherton, and Tice (1994) observe that the “rise in addictive
behaviors may be similarly fueled by the belief that people cannot
control their desires for drugs or alcohol (p. 251). Addiction
approaches undermine a sense of control or responsibility. According
to Seligman (1993), “there is no sign of an alcoholic personality”
(p. 209). While recovery programs may point people in the right
direction, they are unlikely to provide the right balance of personal
responsibility and divine grace.
I
think recovery is lots better than addiction. But I have a sneaking
suspicion that there is something still better. I am inclined
to turn to a book with a unique claim. According to Joseph Smith,
the Book of Mormon is “the most correct book on earth, and the
keystone of our religion, and a man would get nearer to God by
abiding by its precepts, than by any other book" (Documentary
History of the Church 4:461.). I believe that the Book of Mormon
is also more effective at bringing us right with God than any
program.
A
Better Approach
My
favorite therapist from the Book of Mormon is a man who did not
use the jargon of psychology. Yet his insights are timeless and
sharp. We call him King Benjamin. This amazing servant-leader
taught his people a program of spiritual development that was
delivered to him by an angel (Mosiah 3:2). Let’s consider the
phrases of a single vital verse from King Benjamin’s final message
to his people (Mosiah 3:19).
For
the natural man . . .
Note
that Benjamin does not talk of addicts. He puts our dilemma in
spiritual perspective. We are natural. We have not been changed
and enlivened by the power of God.
is
an enemy to God,
God
cannot look upon sin with the least degree of allowance (D&C
1:31). We are all tainted and therefore alien, foreign, and offensive
to the Divine. The immediate question is, how can we get out of
our desperate situation?
and
has been from the fall of Adam, and will be, forever and ever,
Ouch!
Our situation seems hopeless. We will always be enemies to God
engaging in behaviors that do not serve us or Him well as we journey
through life
unless
he yields to the enticings of the Holy Spirit,
Thank
Heaven for that “unless”! There is a way! God sends a lifeline---the
Holy Spirit---His helper and messenger. Notice that this helper
is not an indifferent observer. He is enticing us to come
to God. Enticing! Inviting, pleading, urging.
What
is the thing we must do in order to be rescued? We must yield!
This seems akin to 12-Step programs that require participants
to acknowledge that they are helpless and dependent upon God.
The vital truth that Benjamin adds is that there is a specific
form of yielding---to God’s special messenger, the Holy Spirit.
and
putteth off the natural man and becometh a saint
<sigh>
I would very much like to put off that ornery, contrary natural
man and become a saint. I have found that my efforts to do that
have not paid off reliably. So, with Enos, I ask, “Lord, how is
it done?” (Enos 1:7) This is the great truth on which all hope
of growth hinges! The answer for Enos and for all of us is “thy
faith in Christ” (Enos 1:8). This fits beautifully with King Benjamin’s
observation:
through
the atonement of Christ the Lord,
Ahhh!
The atonement! The central power in the Great Plan of Happiness!
“For why not speak of the atonement of Christ!” (Jacob 4:12) Why
not! Let us “talk of Christ, . . . rejoice in Christ, . . . preach
of Christ, . . . prophesy of Christ, and . . . write according
to our prophecies, that our children may know to what source [to]
look for a remission of their sins” (2 Nephi 25:26).
and
becometh as a child,
Childlikeness
does not come easily to humans. Willfulness, stubbornness, and
contrariness are more natural. Becoming as a child includes being:
submissive,
meek, humble, patient, full of love, willing to submit to all
things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon him, even as a
child doth submit to his father.
There
is a wonderful irony here. Twelve-step programs encourage participants
to turn their lives over to God. So does King Benjamin. The difference
is that the Gospel of Jesus Christ puts a face on that God. We
are not just declaring ourselves to be powerless, we are covenanting
ourselves to be His. When we draw the power of Christ into our
lives, we feel very powerful. But we know where the power comes
from.
Ammon
was a “recovered” (The Christian word is converted!) sinner:
“Yea,
I know that I am nothing; as to my strength I am weak; therefore
I will not boast of myself, but I will boast of my God, for in
his strength I can do all things” (Alma 26:17)
I
knew a man who had an especially disagreeable and destructive
“addiction.” As his bishop, I felt directed to have him study
the great repenters of the Book of Mormon. What great lessons!
Alma was transformed when he totally turned himself over to Jesus.
Nephi moved from despair to joy when he focused on the One in
whom He trusted. I believe that there is more power to heal us
in the doctrine than we ever imagined.
There
are many ways of drawing power and truth from the scriptures.
We can search the Book of Mormon for the doctrine of Christ. We
can feast on the great atonement speeches (Hebrews 9, 2 Ne 2,
9, Mosiah 3, 4, Alma 34, 42, 3 Nephi 27, D&C 19). We can look
for the “have mercy” pattern in scripture. (You might be surprised
how many of the righteous cry for mercy!) We can study the process
of covenanting.
To
overcome the natural man we need more than the philosophies of
men mingled with scripture. We need pure, energizing doctrine.
Elder Packer’s keen insight is worth serious and repeated study:
“True doctrine, understood, changes attitudes and behavior. The
study of the doctrines of the gospel will improve behavior quicker
than a study of behavior will improve behavior. Preoccupation
with unworthy behavior can lead to unworthy behavior. That is
why we stress so forcefully the study of the doctrines of the
gospel” (Boyd K. Packer, Conference Report, October 1986).
There
certainly are places for professional help in our tortured mortal
journey. We should use all wise supports. But if we want to be
truly transformed, we must go beyond the language, methods, objectives,
and mentality of the world. We must immerse ourselves in the doctrine
of Christ. “When you choose to follow Christ, you choose to be
changed” (Ezra Taft Benson, Ensign, November 1985). No program
or set of tools should become our focus. Our focus should continue
to be immersing ourselves in the doctrine of Christ There is no purer source for that doctrine than the
great sermons and stories in the Book of Mormon.
The
one-step to heaven is to turn our hearts, minds, and lives over
to Christ. That one step may take many tries and many decades,
but He is the Panacea for all ills. While we should wisely apply
all the wisdom the world can offer, we must never elevate it above
God’s own instructions and processes. Jesus is the way, the truth,
and the life (John 14:6).
References:
Baumeister,
R. R., Heatherton, T. F., & Tice, D. M. (1994). Losing
control: How and why people fail at self-regulation. San Diego,
CA: Academic Press.
Kaminer,
W. (1993). I’m dysfunctional, you’re dysfunctional: The recovery
movement and other self-help fashions. New York: Vintage Books.
Seligman,
M. E. P. (1993). What you can change and what you can’t.
New York: Fawcett Columbine.