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By Lynn Harbertson

Our weekly missionary preparation day had once again arrived, and the laundry awaited. This week bed sheets would be included, which signaled an opportunity to accomplish our bi-monthly turn of the mattress. Working as a team, my wife and I stood the queen mattress on edge then pivoted it end-for-end and began lowering it into place.

“CRASH!”

Although this routine had been repeated several times in the past without mishap, this time was different. Somehow, through carelessness or misjudgment on my part, a corner of the mattress caught the lampshade of the kiln dried clay lamp sitting on the nightstand, and sent it flying into the wall and on to the floor.

After lowering the mattress into place, we surveyed the damage.

The lamp was broken into five main pieces, with several smaller chips littering the carpet.

My first reaction was disappointment — disappointment that I had not been more aware and careful, and disappointment that the lamp was so easily broken. After all, aren't these pieces of furniture supposed to be able to take a little abuse without falling apart?

Immediately thereafter I felt a growing sense of contrition. This lamp was one of a pair that we had recently purchased when moving into our new missionary apartment and held some sentimental value. My guilt was not made easier as I glanced over at its twin, which stood securely in place on the nightstand on my wife's side of the bed. It seemed to be saying to me, “How could you have done this to me? Now you've ruined a perfect match and taken away the light of my life”.

Even so, as I returned my gaze to the broken lamp I was moved to the conclusion that it was indeed beyond repair and would need to be thrown out. This, of course, would mean that the good lamp would likely be given away or stored in order to make room for another matching pair.

At that moment, as I knelt surveying the scene, my wife, who is usually inclined to take the high road, said, looking over my shoulder,

“You know, I think we can put this thing back together.”

“I don't know,” I replied. “Look at all of these pieces! How would we ever get it back to its original condition?”

Her response was irrefutable and yet nonjudgmental, especially as regarding the carelessness of her husband.

“Don't you think with a little patience, creativity, and some paint and strong glue that it can be restored? Come on — let's at least give it a try.”

What could I say?

The Mending

After spending some time and money in the neighborhood craft and hardware stores, we returned home with the materials needed for a complete restoration.

At some point — and how it came to pass I am unable to unravel — it was decided that I would assume responsibility for restoring the piece and at the same time, as I suppose, give me an opportunity to assuage my guilt and complete the steps of my repentance.

Right from the beginning, the task proved demanding. It was a challenge just to move the lamp from the bedroom into the living room, where the rescue would play out. Some of the pieces were not quite broken free of the larger parts, and I thought how it would be to our advantage (the lamp's and mine — I had begun to look at this rebuilding as team effort into which we both must contribute our best efforts) not to have those pieces become completely disengaged. A careful study of the situation provided the answer, and I was able to convey the lamp to the desired location without further dismantling.

Several minutes were given to evaluating the proper starting point. Figuring out how all of the pieces fit together and then determining which pieces should be joined with glue first, and then how to keep those pieces tightly joined while the adhesive dried, was not immediately apparent. In a sense, it was a like solving a mystery and a puzzle all wrapped into one.

As the process unfolded, it became clear that patience would be a necessary virtue. Each newly glued section required a couple of hours to dry, and even then there was no guarantee that the work would turn out as envisioned and might consequently require a resetting of the parts. A full day was needed to complete this beginning stage of reconstruction and although it wasn't pretty, with the glue oozing out and gaping holes showing here and there where the glue couldn't fill, there was now good reason to believe that the lamp could be made to shine again.

The next steps in the mending process called for a careful scraping off of the runs of hardened glue and a filling in of the broken seams and holes with a spackling compound. When the compound dried, it was sanded and made smooth. However, as most people know, when spackling dries it also shrinks and leaves a depression. Therefore, this process of filling, drying, and sanding had to be repeated several times before the lamp was at last ready for the final phase.

The paint we had purchased was of excellent quality and covered beautifully. There were two colors; desert sand and aqua green. They came fairly close to the original hues but gave the revitalized lamp a look of improved newness and beauty. There were several designs etched into the clay, which gave the lamp base its unique personality. The new coats of paint enhanced these attractive configurations and augmented the lamp-maker's original work.

The Miracle

Although each stage of improvement had brought a certain sense of accomplishment, there was nothing quite as satisfying as beholding the finished product. Indeed, in our minds, a small miracle had been accomplished. Through persistence, patience and loving attention a light that was to be extinguished was restored and revitalized.

The aftereffect was a rekindling of the purpose for which the lamp was created — to let its light shine so as to drive away the darkness and illuminate the way for all who would see.

An unexpected final result occurred as we set the lamp on the nightstand and then backed off to admire our work; the companion lamp on the other nightstand was made to look older and less appealing. Something was definitely lacking. Once again, as if on cue my sweetheart provided the apodictic closure:

“Hon, do you see how the mended lamp now wants to share its new look with its twin? Don't you think it needs and deserves the same kind of refreshment and restoration?”

Well … what could I say?

Likening the Lamp to Ourselves

The story of the lamp can be applied to ourselves. We, as followers of Christ, have been called the “light of the world.” But our lamps are fragile; they can be broken. Thankfully, our own experience showed me that broken lamps can be fixed. Here are twelve observations, based on the allegory of the broken lamp:

SYMBOL
MEANIING
Lamp
Member of the Church
Lamp breaker
Member of Church who may be insensitive, careless, or mean-spirited
Breaking of lamp Careless actions and/or words of the member(s) of the Church
Light goes out Loss of the Spirit and resulting inactivity
Lamp builder(s) Repentant and caring member(s) reaching out as moved by the Spirit
Repair materials Charity, patience, caring, testimony, friendship, and other acts of kindness
Partially repaired lamp Member in the process of turning back to the Savior
Completely repaired lamp Reactivated member blessed with a friend, a calling, and nurturing in the word
Twin lamp Family member or friend needing the blessings of gospel

1. [Symbol]

The breaking of the lamp occurs while trying to be helpful.

[Meaning] Sometimes our well-intentioned efforts result in hurt and misunderstanding.
[Reference] “O be wise; what can I say more?” Jacob 6:12
2. [Symbol] The lamp breaker is careless.
[Meaning] There are times when damage is done because we are insensitive or inadequately informed about another's life circumstances. The hurt may also be the result of someone choosing to be offended.
[References] “Often we can, usually unwittingly, be insensitive to the difficulties of those around us.” Elder Jeffery R. Holland, “Come And See ” , Liahona , August, 1998; “To be offended is a choice we make…” David A. Bednar, “And Nothing Shall Offend Them,” Ensign, November, 2006.
3. [Symbol]

The lamp breaker's initial response is a mixture of guilt and annoyance. He is sorry that his action contributes to the lamp's broken condition, and he is frustrated that the lamp is not stronger and more resilient.

[Meaning] When our actions contribute to another's unhappiness we often experience conflicting emotions; we may feel remorse, resentment, vulnerability, or empathy to name a few.
[References] “Who will subordinate ego, pride, and hurt—then step forward with “I am truly sorry!” President Thomas S. Monson, “The Peril Of Hidden Wedges”, Ensign, July, 2007.
4. [Symbol]

The breaker of the lamp, after a cursory evaluation, concludes that the lamp is so badly damaged that it is beyond repair.

[Meaning] The offended or injured brothers or sisters may be so resentful that they want little or nothing more to do with the programs of the Church or its members. As a result, they are often shelved (put on a Do Not Contact list) and efforts to restore them are seen as futile.
[References] “What man of you, having an hundred sheep, if he lose one of them, doth not leave the ninety and nine in the wilderness, and go after that which is lost, until he find it?” Luke 15:4
5. [Symbol] When the lamp is broken, the light goes out.
[Meaning] As the member no longer participates in the sacrament or attends the temple or receives priesthood blessings or has fellowship with the saints and very likely stops reading scriptures and praying, he/she loses the companionship of the Holy Ghost.
[References] “But sin in any form offends the Holy Ghost. You must not do anything or go anywhere that offends the Spirit.” Henry B. Eyring, “Watch With Me,” Ensign , May, 2001.
6. [Symbol]

As the broken lamp is about to be discarded, so also would its twin likely be set aside, making room for a new pair of lamps.

[Meaning] As the affronted member moves toward in-activity, he or she is very likely to have an impact on other family members and/or close friends. If these people are members of the Church, they may also become less active and eventually forgotten as the attention of the ward is refocused on new move-ins or recent converts.
[References] “…inactivity starts early … children of inactive parents tend to become inactive themselves at an early age.” A. Theodore Tuttle, “Strengthening the Less Active,” Ensign, 1980, October.
7. [Symbol]

The breaker of the lamp, with the encouragement and insight of another, is helped to see that the lamp may indeed be salvageable and worth whatever time, money and effort is needed for its restoration.

[Meaning] The active member, who is initially displeased and put off with the response of the disaffected member, is helped by another to see that this soul is of great worth and should not be abandoned, but should receive of his/her loving attention and ministration.
[References]

“Thus, we must refrain from making final judgments on people because we lack the knowledge and the wisdom to do so.” Dallin H. Oaks, “'Judge Not' And Judging,” Ensign, August 1999; ”Behold, all souls are mine;” Ezekiel 18:4

8. [Symbol]

The lamp breaker shops around at various outlets to find the best and most appropriate materials for reconstruction.

[Meaning] The repentant member makes a sincere effort to discover how he/she can minister to the less active member; by giving place to such spiritual nutrients as forgiveness, repentance, friendship, prayer, fasting, and wise counsel from the scriptures, words of the prophets, and promptings of the Holy Ghost.
[References]

“We need a change of attitude. We need to be supportive of one another, instead of backbiting and maligning and resorting to malicious gossip.” N. Eldon Tanner, “Live By The Savior's Teachings,” Ensign, December, 1982

9. [Symbol]

The lamp breaker works diligently to determine the proper course to follow in moving, preparing, and repairing the lamp. He discovers that patience and careful handling must underlie all of his efforts.

[Meaning] The supportive member and others, prayerfully approach his/ her commitment to help the less active member by considering all that is known of the person and what kinds of action will likely provide the best possibilities for bringing the blessings of the gospel back into their life. He/she recognizes that patience; the promptings of the spirit, and charity will be vital to achieving the goal.
[References] “…and thus be led by the Holy Spirit, becoming humble, meek, submissive, patient, full of love and all long-suffering;” Alma 13:28
10. [Symbol]

The process of fitting the pieces in the correct order and then gluing them together takes a good deal of time. Before the next set of pieces can be aligned and cemented, the glue must be allowed to dry so that all of the work will not be lost.

[Meaning] The helpful member(s) temper their reactivation efforts in order that the pace does not overwhelm or discourage the returning member, but instead allows him/her to regain strength and commitment; line upon line and precept upon precept.
[References]

“All of us share the responsibility to lovingly, sincerely lead our inactive friends and families back into full activity … We must be united in our activation work. This effort affects the success of all other matters in this Church. We must pursue it unfailingly.” A. Theodore Tuttle, “Strengthening The Less Active”, Ensign, October, 1980

11. [Symbol]

Eventually, after much gluing, scraping, sanding and spackling, the finishing coats of paint are applied to the lamp, giving it an enhanced beauty beyond even its original attractiveness.

[Meaning]

Over time, and through the application of the Savior's formula of loving our neighbor as ourselves, the helping member(s) feels great joy as he/she witnesses the spiritually renewed member's transformation. The reactivated person then comes to feel at one again with his/her brothers and sisters of the Church and recognizes the blessings that flow through submission to the Lord. The helping member(s) sees how reaching out with a sincere hand of friendship, providing someone the opportunity to serve their fellow members, and bringing the scriptures to bear in their life, can bless that life immeasurably.

[References]

“And if it so be that you should labor all your days in crying repentance unto this people, and bring, save it be one soul unto me, how great shall be your joy with him in the kingdom of my Father!”, Doctrine And Covenants 18:15; “…I have labored without ceasing, that I might bring souls unto repentance; that I might bring them to taste of the exceeding joy of which I did taste; that they might also be born of God, and be filled with the Holy Ghost,” Alma 36:24

12. [Symbol]

When the reconstructed lamp is restored to its original place and the joyful lamp breakers stand back to admire its new beauty, it almost seems as if the lamp is saying, “You have helped me to find my wholeness and even so, an added measure; but behold, my twin lamp now appears in need of attention; could we bring new luster to it's countenance with the loving strokes of the artist's hand? “

[Meaning] When the reactivated member recognizes and experiences the great blessings that come from bringing Christ and his gospel back into his/her life, he/she is then filled with the desire to share those blessings with others; especially those who are most dear.
[References] “And as I partook of the fruit thereof it filled my soul with exceedingly great joy; wherefore, I began to be desirous that my family should partake of it also; for I knew that it was desirable above all other fruit.” 1Nephi 8:12

We believe in and attest to the miracle of the mending. Our mission experience has provided us with multiple opportunities to witness this process take place in the lives of many who have chosen to respond to the scriptural invitation to be “fellow citizens with the saints and of the household of God.”

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About the Author:

Lynn Harbertson and his wife Loretta are retired teachers who have been blessed with twelve children and forty-four grandkids.  Both graduated from BYU and find enjoyment in photography, kayaking, gardening, computers, writing, connecting with the kids and grandkids and serving the Lord. They are presently serving a two-year proselyting mission in the California Santa Rosa Mission, where their primary focus is the soul-satisfying labor of assisting in the work of bringing back into full fellowship those who have become less active.

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