Visiting teaching is a guilt-ridden topic for many people. If my mailbox can be believed, there are lots of us who don't feel as though we're measuring up.

This week's letters begin with a plaintive note from a visiting teacher in Maine, who doesn't think she's doing as much as she can do. Thankfully, we have letters from people who give advice for how she — and we — can improve our performance.

We'll end with a few short-and-sweet letters that remind us of what visiting teaching can be. But first, our letter from Maine:

By and large I've had good and excellent visiting teachers. I can't say the same about myself though.

I had a wonderful companion for a couple of years, and then it was time to "mix it up." Now I just have at least a dozen ready reasons and excuses for not being able to keep my appointments. The guilt trip is overwhelming.

A surprise note or nice card in the mail, a telephone call out of the blue, or an email isn't good enough, even though they make my spirit soar when I'm the recipient.

I can't seem to manage "on demand" inspiration regarding the needs of my sister, themed to a monthly suggestion. I do receive random promptings to call a sister and when I reach them their troubles are quickly revealed — prying not required.  I want my visit to help — not just meet a quota.

A Sister in Maine that Isn't Getting There from Here

It may be just my opinion, Maine, but it doesn't sound to me as though you aren't measuring up. It could be that the women on your route don't need a whole lot of help except when you get those “random promptings,” which you seem to be getting without trouble.

Most of us go for months or even years without needing anything specific from our visiting teachers, so that just a continued presence to remind us that they're available when we do need them could be enough.

I wonder if you could ask the people you visit, “How could I be a better visiting teacher to you?” Either they can make suggestions that will help you do your job better, or they'll reassure you that the job you're already doing is sufficient. In any case, I don't think they'll be as hard on you as you're being on yourself. Just a thought.

This is a subject close to my heart.  Visiting and home teaching are the most important programs in the Church.  They are also the ones where it's easiest to follow the letter of the law and completely miss the spirit of the law.  I've heard the "rules" of visiting teaching multiple times:

• Visit every month
• Visit in the sister's home
• Be well groomed
• Present a lesson
• Stay no longer than 20 minutes.

I had a pair of visiting teachers who followed those rules perfectly.  They were prompt, faithful, and well-prepared.  However, they were also great friends of each other besides being visiting teaching companions.  When they came, they spent 15 minutes talking about people whom I did not know, projects in which I was not involved, and experiences which I did not share.  The last five minutes, they presented a beautiful lesson, asked if there was anything they could do for me, and left.  That was the last I heard from them until the next visit.

In contrast, I had a pair of visiting teachers who occasionally did our visit over the phone, occasionally gave me a lesson at the back of the chapel after Sacrament Meeting, sometimes didn't give me a lesson at all — but, I always knew they were interested in me, and if I ever needed something at 3am, they would be unquestionably available.

For a few years, I visit taught a less-active sister.  At first, we couldn't even get in the door, but we never stopped trying.  At the time, she was working full-time, going to school full-time, and raising five children.  If she wouldn't answer our phone calls, my companion and I would leave dinner on her doorstep. 

After a few months of that, she started answering our phone calls and letting us in.  Our visits were never less than two hours.  She has never increased her activity level, but a couple of years later, my husband made the comment that I was one of few people in the ward to whom she would open her door.

The same situation applies in home teaching as well.  We had a home teacher who would show up on our doorstep (he never had time to come in) on the last day of every month, ask how we were doing, then leave.  Another home teacher would visit faithfully every month, come in, ask all the right questions, show caring and empathy, but we never felt that he was actually listening.

I heard of a less-active man who complained to his bishop that he wasn't being home taught.  The bishop checked and found his home teacher was the stake president.  The bishop went back to the man and asked, well isn't so-and-so coming over?  The man replied, "Of course.  I see him a couple of times a week.  He's not my home teacher, he's my friend!"

In the end, that's what it's all about.

Another Sensible Sister

Great points, Sensible. Your definition of success is right on. In the long run, being the person an inactive lets in the door is much more important than following the formula that so many of us rely on. Thanks for the reminder.

I have a strong testimony of visiting teaching and the power it can have for good in our lives.  I believe that a visiting teacher's main calling is to cultivate an relationship of trust and caring with those they are given by the Saviour to minister too through the visiting teaching program. This relationship will allow the sisters who are on our list to share with us when life gets hard for them and they need help, guidance, or just someone to talk to. 

If we do not build a positive caring relationship with those we are assigned to teach, we will be held accountable one day to the Saviour on how we did or did not do this special calling he gave to us. 

I also have a testimony of the fact that we are given the calling of visiting teacher for two basic reasons — for our growth and for the growth of those we visit teach.   When we go into the homes of those we visit teach, we need to focus with the spirit on the sister we are visiting.  This is a calling from the Lord, and we need to treat it as such and do as he would do if he was there with that sister. We are his representative, may we represent him well.

I am of the firm belief as well that our attitude regarding visiting teaching will determine how we do our calling as visiting teachers. If one does not have a firm testimony of what a visiting teacher is and the power of the visiting teaching program, I plead with you to get down on your knees and ask for one.

Ronnie Buckley
Victoria, British Columbia, Canada

Thanks for your thoughts, Ronnie. I really liked what you said about being given the calling of visiting teacher for our personal growth as well as to help the people we visit teach. So often we get so caught up in doing the mechanics of the calling — making sure that we make our visits by the end of the month — that we forget to focus on the needs of the persons we visit. And realizing that we're also supposed to be growing through the process of visiting teaching is something that never even crosses our minds. We get so focused on the immediate goal that we're missing the big picture, I think.

Here's a letter from a Relief Society president who also fears we're missing the concept of the program:

Visiting teaching is something I struggle with all the time as a current Relief Society president.  Getting the sisters to grasp the concept of the program, gain a testimony of it and reap the rewards is my biggest desire and concern.  Because of that, I bear testimony of this divine program as often as I can and pray that the sisters in my ward will be motivated to try harder with visiting teaching.

I believe that with any program, calling or principle in the Church, if you are an active member with a testimony of the gospel you just, "DO IT," as Pres. Spencer W. Kimball used to say.  You do it because you have taken the name of Christ upon you and that is what He needs you to do for His church.  It is our privilege and responsibility as sisters to serve as visiting teachers (or home teachers for the men). 

We all have to realize that it takes several visits, and sometimes heartaches, before you become real friends with the sisters you visit.  At first you visit teach because it is expected of you to do so.  You prepare a lesson for the sisters you see, take it to them and then visit with them a little afterwards.  The more you go and open up, the faster a friendship will develop.

The purpose of visiting teaching is not only to help bring sisters closer to Christ, but it is also to see how they are doing, assess any needs and build relationships of trust.  I tell my sisters it's more important to visit their sisters, see how they are doing and become their friends than it is to prepare and take the actual lesson, though that is the optimum goal. 

Most people don't tell their struggles to a stranger, so you need to become friends first.  The lessons are a way to open up a discussion and get to know each other through them.  I know that is by design.  The more you talk, the more you get to know someone.

For visiting teaching to work, we all need to open up a bit more.  We need to trust each other more.  When your visiting teachers call and want to come see you, be available for them — let them come.  They are on an errand for the Lord.  If your visiting teachers don't call, find out who they are, call them and tell them you want a visit.  As a visiting teacher, don't overstay your welcome.  Don't stay too long unless that is what your sister wants and needs.  Pray for guidance with your sisters, and the Lord will direct you.

We are all members of a worldwide sisterhood in Relief Society that is like no other on earth.  Embrace it!  Use it!  It will bless your lives and you can develop life long, if not eternal, friends though visiting teaching.

Heidi Van Woerkom
Provo, Utah

You make good points, Heidi. If our visiting teachers don't call us, we can indeed call them. We can sit back and complain if they don't come, or we can make their job easier for them by inviting them over. In fact, inviting them over may make it a whole lot harder for them to fail. We all should be working together on this. After all, we're all teachers as well as people who are being taught. If everyone made everyone else's task easier, the whole process would be a whole lot more pleasant.

Read on for a tale of a one-time visiting teaching hater who was converted to being a fan of visiting teaching:

I, too, have a testimony of visiting teaching as it is supposed to run. But for years I refused to do my visiting teaching.

It all began when I joined the Church. I came from a very non-Christian background, so absolutely everything was new to me. The second week I was a member I was given a contract by the Relief Society president to sign. It was a contract to do my visiting teaching. I signed it as I thought it was what was expected of me even though I was a little concerned — not knowing what visiting teaching was, after all.

That week a sister I didn't know rang to inform me she was my companion and we were going visiting teaching that weekend. I was a single mum with no support, which meant taking my autistic three-year-old son with me. Joy! NOT!

I quickly learned that visiting teaching meant to go harass a non-active sister into coming back to Church or to sit and chat for ages with your dearest friend who happened to be on your list. Well, that is what my companion did; I spent the whole time trying to keep my son from destroying these sisters' homes. As you can imagine, pretty soon I refused to go.

In return, my first lot of visiting teaching sisters felt it imperative to tell me that everything I was doing before joining the Church was a sin and I had to stop. But they gave me nothing to replace it with. Did that mean I could no longer swim in the river? No longer watch TV? They didn't give me a clue.

Then I got a new visiting teacher whose idea of visiting teaching was to phone and leave a, “Hi, you're not home; I'll call later,” message on the phone and consider that a contact. She was also the Relief Society president!

Well, after a few years of flat-out refusing to have anything to do with Relief Society, I got called as the visiting teaching leader. After asking if the bishop was serious and then telling him of my hatred of the whole thing, I accepted the calling. I went home and studied the history of visiting teaching and what it was all about. It was nothing that I had experienced so far.

I came to see it as a mission to get the sisters to see visiting teaching as an act of love, not grumbling duty. I had some success, and just as I got right into it I was released. Oh well — it gave me the love and the drive to do it.

But then I moved to a branch. I lived about 45 minutes from town, and so the Relief Society president who was assigned as my visiting teacher thought it o.k. to send me a photocopied message with someone else's name on it each month. Did I feel the love — no!

But all is not lost. After a year we moved again to the city. On the first day my family arrived I got a phone call from a sister saying she was my visiting teacher and wanted to come visit that week with her companion. Dubious, I agreed.

For the past two years now, I have enjoyed two sisters who I love and I know love me. In return I have a companion who I adore and we spend time together because we want to — not just because we are companions.

As for the sisters we visit, they are gems. I have lupus, which makes time outside in the sun horrible. As it is the end of summer here and very hot today, the sisters I am to visit teach are actually coming to me so I don't have to go outside. Bless them! So I am making a lovely luncheon for us all and looking forward to the time together.

Visiting teaching is not a torture device any longer. We were meant to love and support each other and it is a joy to do that.

We may not make our visiting teaching perfectly 100% every month, but our sisters know we are there for them 100% day or night, rain hail or sunshine.

A Happy Sister in Melbourne Australia

Thanks for a great saga, Happy. It was so nice to have a happy ending — a happy ending that came, by the way, because you accepted a calling you didn't want and decided to find out more about a process you hated. You deserve credit for making the effort to find out what was right about visiting teaching instead of relying on your past experience.

By the way, the whole idea of the visiting teaching contract gave me the creeps. It reminded me of when I was four, and attending a summer Bible school at a non-LDS church. The teachers passed around sheets of paper and had everyone in the class sign them. A lot of the kids couldn't even write their names yet, so the teachers came around and held their hands around the crayons to form the letters.

It was only after everyone had signed the documents that the teacher told everyone they had signed a promise to God that they would never drink alcohol or smoke cigarettes in their lives. What a thing to foist on a group of four-year-olds! Even though I thought all my life how manipulative it was to make children sign a promise to God without telling them what the promise was, I never in my life took a drink or smoked a cigarette.

But at least my Bible school teachers had the excuse of not knowing the doctrine of free agency. For someone in the Church to have a new church member sign a visiting teaching contract without knowing the first thing about visiting teaching is even ickier than my Bible school experience. I'm sure your Relief Society president meant well, but sometimes we human beings are clueless.

Here's another letter telling us how to be better visiting teachers:

I think this forum is interesting, and there is some really good advice about listening to the needs of sisters that are being visited as well as those that are doing the visiting.  I think the key is to
remember that the gospel is perfect, but we are not — not any one of us.

We also need to remember that visiting teaching is a calling and, like any other calling, we are entitled to personal revelation about the sisters we are responsible for. We also need to adequately prepare ourselves spiritually before we visit someone. In Teaching, No Greater Call, all teaching is patterned after the Savior's example. 

One of the main principles of teaching, if not the most important principle is to love those we teach. Another is getting to know those you teach, not only their needs, but who they are and what they care about, their hobbies, interests and goals.  I would suggest a study of that manual for any teacher including a visiting teacher — visiting teaching is also service and we usually come to love those we have served. If we are striving to be Christ-like, prayerful, compassionate and obedient, then hopefully we will be in tune with the sisters we teach.

That said, often times our callings cause us to stretch and grow — and we know that process can sometimes be a little painful. We also have to respect the agency of others whether or not we agree with them, no matter how difficult that may be for us.  If someone does not want to meet with us, we can let her know that we love her. We can still be a good visiting teacher to those women by including them in our prayers, just as we would for our own family or children. 

We should understand and respect their wishes and let them know that we are always waiting with open arms if they change their minds.  That is how the Savior waits for us, just inside the door!  Waiting for us to be ready to knock and seek for him.

Many of us have faced or will face similar issues as the women in this forum, and upon reading  all of the posts, I would suggest that probably the biggest problem that seems to run throughout is a lack of good communication.  Sometimes we are so afraid to cause a problem that we don't speak up, either to our partners or those we visit, or to our visiting teachers. We might prefer to stew on something for 50 years instead of spending the time to ask for the Lord's help to help us know the best way to bring up something unpleasant to someone and resolve it. 

Sometimes we are bad listeners to both the verbal and nonverbal cues that are being given or we assume we know what someone needs, without asking.  We may need to pray to the Lord to see if there is anything we need to change in our approach or style of visiting teaching. The Lord promises to show us our weaknesses if we come unto him; he also promises that those weaknesses can become our strengths. 

(If you are brave enough you can ask your visiting teaching partner this or even one of the sisters you teach, but make sure you have on your thick and very humble skin that day!)  We need to be bold without being blunt.  We need to be informed without being nosy.  We need to seek revelation to understand each other and pray to find out needs, and sometimes we just need to ask are we doing a good job?  Do you want a friend or a lesson, or BOTH?  Do you feel like talking today?  Can we keep this short but sweet?  What do you expect from your visiting teacher?  As visiting teaching partners, how should we plan our visits?  Can we have a prayer? We know you have a lot to do today; would you prefer to multi-task while we are giving the lesson — exercise or clean, perhaps? 

This may seem hard, but you can do hard things!  And in the end, you just might end up with some wonderful experiences and some eternal friends. Even when your service goes unnoticed and unappreciated, especially then, you can have the peace of knowing that you have done  the best that you can and you can turn the rest over to the Lord.

Northern California

Good letter, California! I liked the list of examples of questions you can ask the people you visit teach in order for you to customize your visits to their needs. I had to laugh about asking them if they'd like to clean the house while you teach them, though. That might come across as suggesting the house is in need of a cleaning. It might be better to tell the ladies to feel free to multi-task without suggesting what they can be doing while you're teaching them. Otherwise, one of them might multi-task by whapping you on the head with a toilet brush.

I appreciate the letters on Visiting Teaching.  Because of my circumstances, I now have to do visiting teaching by mail to sisters who are inactive, whom I have never met.  Any suggestions would be helpful.  I pray before I write the message, but without feedback, it is impossible to say whether this is effective yet.

My first visiting teachers many years ago spent the entire visit discussing how dirty the previous sister's home had been.  I tried to tell them that a family member had been diagnosed with cancer, but that did not register.  I learned to have my house clean and keep my life private — very private. 

Over the years I have had some wonderful inspired sisters — one who took my children when I went into labor, and another who brought two little outfits for the twins (I wasn't able to afford much beyond sleepers).  One visiting teacher, without being asked, offered a prayer on my behalf when I had just been called as Relief Society president and was feeling so overwhelmed.  I have been blessed by so many sisters who took the time and sacrificed to serve.  I hope there is a special reward for their kindness, their faithfulness.

But the gossip is still a concern.  My daughter, a new mom, thousands of miles from me, had visiting teachers drop by unexpectedly.  One sister gossiped throughout the visit in an unkind manner about members of the ward.  "Why would she have a picture of the Savior on the wall — it's obvious she has a word of wisdom problem," was one of the kinder comments.

Take it to the Relief Society president?  This was the Relief Society president.  Luckily, my daughter has since moved. 

I would plead with all visiting teachers — please treat each visit as a sacred opportunity to represent the Savior.  Please keep all you hear and observe confidential, reporting only to the correct individual when necessary.  We must not make our sisters' burdens heavier by our behavior.

A Canadian

Thanks for the reminder about gossip, Canadian. I'm lucky to live in a gossip-free ward, but not all areas are so fortunate. If people are gossiping about other people in your presence, there's a good chance they're gossiping about you in the presence of others.

There are different kinds of gossip, though. I have a friend who says there's good gossip and bad gossip. If you hear someone maligning someone else, the fastest way to shut down the bad gossip is to say something good about the person who is being gossiped about. Some people are immune from gentle reminders, but often all it takes to get rid of the bad gossip is to say something good.

I love visiting teaching.  When I first became a visiting teacher, I was young, inexperienced, and nervous.  Thankfully, during those first months and years I had wonderful visiting teaching companions who helped me understand that our purpose was to have a gospel discussion, and be a friend.  I have had many wonderful experiences over the years with visiting teaching; both as a visiting teacher, and as the one being taught.

I remember once truly feeling that I was in instrument in the hands of the Lord as I prayed about the needs of one of the sisters I visiting taught and received specific inspiration about what I could do to help her.  I knew that the Lord was aware of her and her challenges and I could feel His love for her.  This strengthened my testimony as well.

I also remember a time in my own life where I did not feel that I could face the challenges — emotional and physical — that I was going through.  I had a sweet visiting teacher who did not pry, but was in tune enough to know that I needed her help.  It is not so much the food she brought over as the caring and thoughtfulness behind it that really helped me get through a particularly trying time.

That being said, and I want you to know that I have had many fabulous visiting teacher throughout the years who have become my friends. However, I do have some cautions for visiting teachers. 

I married young, and within a few months I was pregnant with our first child.  I had two visiting teachers who had had many children.  One of them was also pregnant at the time.  I know now that they were just talking about what we had in common — expectant motherhood.  However, at the time, it seemed all they talked about was pregnancy, labor, delivery, and what could go wrong at every stage.  By the time they left every month I felt like crying.  I was terrified.

We need to be careful as visiting teachers and understand the needs of our sisters.  We need to pray for them and make sure that the things we talk about while in their homes are uplifting to them.

Thanks for giving us a forum to talk about this.

Arizona Sister

Thanks for the reminder that we can be inspired in our visiting teaching callings, Arizona — and that this inspiration can strengthen our testimonies as well. It's so often to think of visiting teaching as a duty. When we think of it as an opportunity, we can open doors both for the people we visit teach and for ourselves.

I have had some really great visiting teachers and some I would rather they didn't come to see me. My first visiting teachers after I was baptized were wonderful. They were there when I needed someone to talk with, and they never judged me. They were just there as a support. They also helped so much as I made the changes that new converts make and were there as my husband and I went to the temple a year later.

But I have also had visiting teachers who were judgmental and not really there for me. My home was never neat enough, even though I work full-time and have a time-consuming church calling. One time they came over to see me after I had some surgery. I had had an argument with my husband, and he had left to cool off. They made the decision that my husband was being abusive to me and a few days later came to see me to do an intervention about my husband's "abusiveness."

My husband is not abusive, but these well-meaning sisters made a judgment of our relationship based on one situation. Their judgment of me and my marriage has strained the visiting teaching relationship and I now find myself making excuses when they try to set up appointments.

I feel the most important thing in being a visiting teacher is to just be there as a listening ear and not to judge anyone. That is not our place.

Judged in Tucson

Thanks for your input, Judged. It sounds as though you may benefit from having a change in visiting teaching assignments. Perhaps the Relief Society president can help you there. Meanwhile, your visiting teachers have taught you a valuable lesson about how not to visit teach. Sometimes people mean well and do absolutely the wrong thing in the process. Now that you've seen it done wrong, I'll bet you never follow their example.

Visiting teaching is one of the most useful tools the Lord has given to us, but like child-rearing it does not always go by the manual. I started visiting teaching with my mother, and she taught me the best and worst of things and how to cope.

I have done my “duty” in many wards and branches and sorry, but there will always be sisters who will try to hijack lessons, give you the wrong impression, or just ignore you when you visit — and that is just your companion.

The main thing that keeps me from doing that which I would really like to do to at times, is to remember that I am representing the Lord.

I know you may think I am not real but I try to give my Sisters the lesson and time as I would like to be visited.

A few small things that have helped me are to get to know my companion. Do you know her birthday or favourite colour or music?

If a visit from your visiting teachers has been difficult, send a note thanking them for the visit.

Now I know you have confirmed I am nuts. But remember it is very hard to write a heart filled thank you note when you are angry.  

Prayers, and the spirit of the Lord, are also the best companions to have, and please forgive the mishaps if things are not as you would want them, visiting or being visited.

This is our probation and we are here to be taught and to learn.

I was taught how to do visiting teaching and that is why I enjoy it, good or bad.

Glenda Olman
Albany Branch
Australia, Perth Mission

What a good attitude, Glenda! It never would have occurred to me to find out little things about the companion, but it certainly can help two people work better together if they've developed an appreciation for one another. As a friend of mine often says, “Familiarity breeds sentimentality.”

You also made an excellent point about writing a thank you note to visiting teachers for whom you are less than thankful. Not only will it improve your attitude, but it may thaw the heart of the difficult visiting teachers.

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As promised, we're ending today's column with a few very short letters that may galvanize you to let your visiting teachers back in your home — or to be a better visiting teacher yourself. Here they are:

I just want to say something positive. I'm 65, so I've had a great many visiting teachers in my time and I've done a great deal of visiting teaching. In all that time I have never encountered the hurtful and negative things that were implied in the letter you posted. I know there are insensitive sisters in the Church and that they can do and say things that are cruel, but I'd like to think that the majority of the visiting teachers are like the ones I've had and like I hope I have been. As this discussion goes on, I hope people will remember that most of us try to be loving and kind to those we visit. Don't let the few bad examples sour the experience of a wonderful program.

Visiting Teaching Veteran

Thanks for the reminder, Veteran, that we remember the horror stories because they are horror stories. Most of the time things go along as they should, so the memories don't stick with us nearly as long.

Here's a great story of visiting teaching that started bad and ended on a great note:

I have had many visiting teachers over the years.  Some became good friends and others didn't bother with me.  As a visiting teacher, I tried.  I even quit for a while. 

Eventually we moved into a new area where we were all new to each other.  Our Relief Society president was a woman who took visiting teaching very seriously.  She prayed over us.  She put two women together who probably wouldn't have become close friends without her.  She gave us two sisters who were as opposite of each other as we were. 

We were four women who all had different stories, strengths and weaknesses.  We are best friends.  We turn to each other because of visiting teaching.  We did not judge.  We were as consistent as we could be.  We had moments of inspiration.  We prayed together, and for each other.  With us it worked. I gained the desire to work harder and I learned about backbone.   

That wonderful Relief Society president could not know what a blessing she gave us. Because of her, I have a firm testimony of the importance of visiting teaching. 

KF
Eagle Mountain, Utah

Thanks for an inspirational letter, KF. It's inspiring because it shows us that even if we're in a bad situation now we can be in a great situation later. I suspect it will also inspire many Relief Society presidents by showing them the difference they can make in the lives of the women they serve. Thanks for writing.

About 15 years ago, when my children were small, and my homemaking skills were even worse than they are now, one of my visiting teachers came over. I was so frazzled that I couldn't concentrate on a single word she said.

After the lesson she asked, "Is there anything I can do for you?" I said, "No, I'm fine," even though it was obvious I was anything but "fine." She asked again, "Are you sure?" I repeated that I was fine and thanked her for coming.

She left, but then came back about five minutes later. She said she needed to do something for me, so she washed all my dishes. Every time I think about that dear sister I am moved to tears. It was a small thing, but it reminded me of how much my Heavenly Father cares for me. This is what visiting teaching should be. It should be an example of pure, selfless love.

Anna Nicholson
Pittsboro, North Carolina

You're right, Anna. That's visiting teaching at its best. And it was such a simple thing that all of us can do it. It's so easy to change a life.

I love my visiting teacher. I just wish she came more regularly. She brings such a sweet spirit into my home and never acts judgmental. I love her visits.

Sister from Utah

There — it doesn't take much to be a good visiting teacher. Just show up and bring a good spirit into the house when you visit. That's all some women need, and it's something we all can do.

Okay. That's it for today. See you all next week. It looks as though we'll have two more weeks of comments from the letters that have already been received and then a week of success stories. I'm looking forward to those success stories!

Until next time — Kathy

"Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world."

Eleanor Roosevelt