From
Our Hearts Instead of our Eyes
By
Vickey Pahnke-Taylor
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“Said Frank
Lloyd Wright, ‘Beauty is the highest expression
of morality.’ Morality is also the highest
expression of beauty — and without these
there is ugliness everywhere.”
Richard L.
Evans shared these words back in April of
1971. I pondered over these words for quite
some time. Ugliness — beauty — expression:
these words are subjective. Since so many
things are relative, what is beautiful to
one may be unattractive to another. One
person’s manner of expression may not be
understood or appreciated by another. But
the words Elder Evans spoke are true. So
— how do I apply them to myself and best
understand to recognize real beauty?
The key word
seems to be “morality.” If anything that
is “good and virtuous and of good report…”
(the Thirteenth Article of Faith) leads
us in the direction of God, then those things
that lead away from God must take goodness
and virtue away, right? And if beauty is
the highest expression of morality and morality
is the highest expression of beauty, then
whatever we see as beautiful should lead
us closer to our Father in Heaven.
Confused yet?
I hope not. What we may come to see is that
beauty, though subjective, is best based
upon sacred, moral judgment. Although there
are many ugly things in this world, there
are huge numbers of beauties to enjoy on
this earth! The earthly beauties were given
to us by a loving Heavenly Father. They
are free. They bring comfort and peace to
the soul. They are uplifting. They bring
joy. They lift us away from worldly ugliness
or faux beauty. Real beauty is associated
with times, people, and experiences when
we see with more clarity — when we see from
our hearts instead of our eyes.
Some beautiful
things I have already enjoyed this morning
are:
- Seeing my
husband’s smiling eyes when I opened my
own.
- Gasping
at a gorgeous sunrise coming up over the
east mountain range.
- Enjoying
the view of snow-covered peaks from the
front room window.
- My son’s
smile as I dropped him off to school.
- Seeing that
my son remembered to take out the garbage
— without being told to.
- An older
man shuffling along the sidewalks of our
neighborhood in a kind attempt to clear
the snow off of them.
These things
did not come with a price tag. They did
not have an agenda. They were real. They
were not based on physical or temporal measurements
of lovely. There was no confusion here about
beauty. And there was no doubt about the
joy that I experienced!
I remember
once, years ago, receiving a phone call
from one of the administrators of the CES
programs. Since I was soon flying to another
state to teach a Know Your Religion session,
the administrator called to say he would
come by our house to bring the travel packet
required. As the morning slipped by, I stayed
busy with household chores. It was mortifying
when the door bell rang. I was still in
my pajamas and robe! I had not even combed
my hair! I had on no cosmetics! Accckkk!
I looked ugly.
When he stepped
into the foyer with his hand extended to
shake mine, I reached out with a big grin
and an apology for the way I looked. His
kind and wise words have stayed with me:
“Vickey, the only thing I see is that big
smile of yours and the light in your eyes.”
I was grateful.
He was being kind and humoring me — or was
he? The Spirit whispered that, indeed,
Milt had learned to look past the outward
appearance. He had learned to look “on
the heart” (see 1 Samuel 16:7.) I figured
if he could see beauty in me at that moment,
there was additional study and internalizing
I needed to do concerning this word!
As the years
pass, and the wrinkles sneak in along with
all those other sure signs of natural aging,
I appreciate the blessing of looking on
the heart. I recognize more surely the beauty
in good things, in nature’s unfolding, in
God’s bounty, in moral beings.
Beautiful music.
Beautiful
paintings.
Beautiful
poetry or other writings.
Beautiful
dance.
Beautiful
faces.
Beautiful
testimonies that are borne.
Beautiful
acts of service.
Beautiful
people.
Guess what?
Sometimes the most beautiful people are
ones who think least about their outward
appearance. They have more important things
to think about than how their face or hair
looks, or how thin or tall or muscled they
may be. Their inward beauty shines so brightly
that it is captivating. Conversely, some
who have a lovely outward appearance — either
natural or “bottled and jarred” — seem
sadly ugly if there is no substance of morality
within. The spirit of the matter, truly,
creates beauty. There is a lot of truth
in that adage, “Pretty is as pretty does!”
This may sound
trite or old fashioned or not “with it”
enough in today’s world. I quietly remind
you of the reality of old-fashioned values.
Tried and true morality. Real beauty that
comes from within and stays. Take a moment
to savor an experience that has given you
a moment of pure joy — of genuine beauty.
If you get the inclination, drop a line
and let me know of something that means
“beautiful” to you. Share an experience.
Savor the memory. How much sweeter the
mortal ride is as we look more with our
hearts instead of our eyes!